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kati_o |
Weight off my shoulders...i think?
Sep 18 2009, 4:37 AM EDT
| Post edited: Sep 18 2009, 4:40 AM EDT
Ok so on wednesday night i went to see my two best friends,(ill call em A +B) who i hadnt seen in a while bcoz of work and stuff like that.I was out with A in the day time at the pub and we got chatting, we both let a little bit out about eating habits and eventually i basically told her i had ana without saying it outright, and she said that sometimes she goes through phases of it too, so it was quite a relief being able to just say things without her thinking i was a freak (more than necessary anyway). That night we met up with B (my other bestie) who i actually hadnt seen for 6 months as he had been up in london and we just kept missing each other ! he is now a size 4 in petite womens clothing - ! All through school me and B became friends because of our mutual but unsaid hatred of eating, and so it didnt suprise me to see him so tiny (actually jealous soooo much )because i always knew he had some kind of ed, mainly ana with bulimic tendencies. What shocked me is that when we had lots to drink later on, he said to me that he has realised its not the way to go, and has now pretty much stopped restricting when he gets too thin, and purging completely. The one time we have ever spoken about this in our lifetime as best friends, and he talks with this recoverd attitude about how to stop! ugh now i soo wish i had let it out ages ago, and i might have had a real life ana buddy but this totally sucks lol...takes the piss! And back to A, She said to me that when im restricting then to give her a call and she will help and we can sorta look out for each other in the way of telling each other if weve gone too far.. Does it sound right to you? i dont know there is something about it like i feel that if i did call her all the time like that she would probably eventually develop an ed because she is very competitive! Do you find this valuable? |
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kati_o |
1. RE: Weight off my shoulders...i think?
Sep 18 2009, 4:39 AM EDT
But at the same respect i feel like there may have been more to it and maybe she does have one? i know you cant just 'get' and ed lol thats not what im saying, but if she has got one and isnt telling me she probably wants the support..but on the other side of the coin she may have been exaggerating and trying to compete by doing it !what do you think ? have any of you guys got real ana mates ?i just dont know how to dela with the situation really! Ha sorry for the rant lmao x K x Do you find this valuable? |
neelola |
2. RE: Weight off my shoulders...i think?
Sep 18 2009, 10:22 AM EDT
Hay,Ive had a few in the past but in my experience it never worked out. I dont think that you can make someone have an ed, but at the same time maybe she was just responding to your confession. I do believe that people can have shades of an ed. I mean you can have the tendencies or mentality without giving yourself over to it. If this is the case you might do her more harm than good. But on the other hand if shes a consenting adult (or at least over 16) and she tells you face to face that she has an ed then all you can do is take her word for it. I guess it comes down to how you feel about it and how important your friendship is. If i were you and she was an important friend then id stay away from restricting with her, your relationship may not survive the stress if envy and competition take over. Youve always got us anyway lol! Hope this helps. xxx nee Do you find this valuable? |
gemana |
3. RE: Weight off my shoulders...i think?
Sep 18 2009, 11:21 AM EDT
yep i agree with neelola. i think when you told her about things she could have become jealous and then thought that if you restrict together she can get ana and then look like you. i don't think your friendship would survive, if either of you recovered then i don't think you could be friendly with each other, if she recovered she'd be convincing you to recover as well. i've told my friend my weight before then the next day she's talking about how she hasn't eaten anything and how she wants to lose weight. i think it's just jealousy and want that your friend is going through! xx Do you find this valuable? |
