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ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 20 2009, 6:51 AM EDT
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u know how when u have friends over and always end up having heart-to-hearts and discussions about everyone n stuff? if u get me. often topics like self harm and eating disorders, well at mine they do. i was wondering what other peoples reactions were to them. bitchy/understanding/pretend to understand. my friends say that when ppl dont eat it pisses them off and wishes they would just grow up and eat and talk about how gross skinny people look, i think maybe they just say it cuz they kno what my eatings like so try and put me off or something. not like that's possible anyway.
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1. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 20 2009, 10:33 AM EDT
I dunno really, they won't understand what's really going on so they'll just judge you...Well, that's what I found, my friends went to the extreme though, told school & forced counselling on me :\ Do you find this valuable? |
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2. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 20 2009, 10:51 AM EDT
yikes. I just told some friends a couple days ago and they like did the whole "you don't need to be doing that to yourself you're beautiful just the way you are" lies, and like they promised not to tell anyone and they were really nice about it, which was good, but it feels really awkward around them, like they know too much about me, you know? I can barely look them in the eyes. I feel so ashamed, like they probably think less of me. I mean, that's how I feel about myself. So, why wouldn't they feel just the same?
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3. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 20 2009, 11:19 AM EDT
"yikes. I just told some friends a couple days ago and they like did the whole "you don't need to be doing that to yourself you're beautiful just the way you are" lies, and like they promised not to tell anyone and they were really nice about it, which was good, but it feels really awkward around them, like they know too much about me, you know? I can barely look them in the eyes. I feel so ashamed, like they probably think less of me. I mean, that's how I feel about myself. So, why wouldn't they feel just the same?"I know exactly how you mean! I mean, that was when I was like 14/15 and it's been really difficult to keep it from them... Now that uni has arrived, it's so much easier (and cheaper!) My mum was like:"oh my god, you're beautiful, don't be silly, stop thinking like that!" I was like, you can;t just turn it off ¬__¬ I agree, my self-esteem is shocking and no one else sees it & it really confuses me... Do you find this valuable? |
fattyfingerz |
4. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 20 2009, 1:59 PM EDT
3 of my friends have eating disorders, and both the guys we hang out with self harm. so we do normally end up talking about it...like say we're walking along, or on msn, we end up telling each other about almost everything, even the guys. its kind of strange really, how we managed to find each other... and we consider ourselves so lucky for that :) it just shows you that someone in the world will understand you, even if you havnt met them yet... and that you might as well keep on living because you will someday meet somebody like that :) sorry, bit emotional. just cant decide if im depressed or happy right now :S Do you find this valuable? |
neelola |
5. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 20 2009, 4:04 PM EDT
I just dont tell people, but its kinda obvious, seen as i never eat with my friends and i no the cal content of every molecule of food they`re eating. Maybe im just in denial but i dont think its an issue, maye there all talking bout me when im not there but as long as they don`t say anything to me im not gonna point it out.x Do you find this valuable? |
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6. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 20 2009, 5:53 PM EDT
"I just dont tell people, but its kinda obvious, seen as i never eat with my friends and i no the cal content of every molecule of food they`re eating. Maybe im just in denial but i dont think its an issue, maye there all talking bout me when im not there but as long as they don`t say anything to me im not gonna point it out.that was like my friends in high school. I thought they didn't really notice, but then one night when we were drunk I told them about my eating disorder and they said they knew and they were always talking about how worried they were. It really shocked me cause I had no idea that they knew! But yeah, just so long as you don't talk to ME about it haha. Do you find this valuable? |
Perfected-dreamer |
7. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 20 2009, 6:19 PM EDT
Haha, yeah I had a few girlfriends over on Saturday night, and I didn't really know one of the chicks but the other one is a good friend, I never really new she was ana as such but I new she calorie counted and what not... but my mate turned to her friend and was like "Oh Manda is ana too, so don't worry about hiding it with her.. I don't" I was like WTF??!!!??!! One: How do you knowwwww I'm ana?? and Two: how dense am I to not realise you are?? Haha it was so weird!! But then we all ended up talking about things all night and laughing at ourselves, it was a nice change. But other than that everone thinks I'm healthy loosing weight... mostly cause I used to do weight watchers so they all just think I still do that. Meh think what they like I say.
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lovell<3 |
8. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 21 2009, 2:12 PM EDT
"3 of my friends have eating disorders, and both the guys we hang out with self harm. so we do normally end up talking about it...i wish i had a group of friends like that, you guys are so lucky u have each other. i have one guy friend who has an anxiety disorder and find it easy to open up to him because he talks to me on the way to school everyday. yesterday i found out that he self harms. tbh i was a little shocked to hear this coming from him, but he knows that i dont look down on him. sometimes he's a little shocked with what i say sometimes, but i guess we both have different problems and help eachother understan them. we have the same mentor now too, but i was sent there and he wanted to go so i took him. i think what u put last there was really sweet. well at least we can find similar ppl on the internet even if we dont in person right now Do you find this valuable? |
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9. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 21 2009, 2:15 PM EDT
"that was like my friends in high school. I thought they didn't really notice, but then one night when we were drunk I told them about my eating disorder and they said they knew and they were always talking about how worried they were. It really shocked me cause I had no idea that they knew! But yeah, just so long as you don't talk to ME about it haha."i had no idea that my friends knew i cut, but hinted to me and i ended up telling them all about it. what really annoys me though is when people do it for attention, or say 'oh, i haven't eaten since last week' and are perfectly fine and just love the fact that they're shocking people around them. school sucks Do you find this valuable? |
Ohhsuger |
10. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 21 2009, 3:20 PM EDT
I've been losing weight with my friend for a while, and I've always had an eating disorder, I just never admit it in that way.. She diets normally, she eats properly but she stopped losing crazy weight now cause she looks good.. She noticed what I'm doing myself, and she keeps on saying I'm going too hard on myself.. I told her I'm not .. she said yes you are but you don't relies it.. I know she cares a lot about me but I have to do this, I cannot give in now when I'm just so close! I don't want to tell my other friends about my eating disorder cause they'll think I'm just some sort of emo or something.. I know how they think . I keep it a secret they all have no idea, and they still think I'm fat I've always been.. Can't wait to surprise them when school start <3
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radioradio |
11. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 21 2009, 4:42 PM EDT
Ah I hate those heart-to-heart conversations. I never know how to respond, especially when they talk about self-harm, body image issues or the like. Yeah I've been through it and all, but it's been so long that I guess I've just numbed myself too much to know how to be emotional and loving. And then they expect me to share something equally personal, and um, no thank you.It's a real pain to sit and listen to them hate on people with EDs and the like though. My family is always going on about that while I'm sitting right there, and my parents at least know I "had" an ED, so I feel for you. Do you find this valuable? |
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12. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 21 2009, 5:21 PM EDT
Yeah your right.. What I hate is when they think they know better.. I know I understand better.. sometimes they will just get away with a stupid statement like ' come on, live your life! ' its very stupid, how can I live my life with low self esteem? I want a perfect body and I wont stop till I get it, I dont even care what anyone thinks anymore, I'm doing it, means I'm doing it.. like, 15 min ago, I asked my friend after sending her a picture if I'm still fat, she said ' its a nice pic, yeah, a little. ' ( as in a little fat) :( thats down right depressing.. after everything I've went through.. I cant get it out of my mind.. the worst part is that I have a swimming party to host tomorrow and how can I do that with the flab? I think I'll just cry in the pool! Do you find this valuable? |
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13. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 21 2009, 6:07 PM EDT
"that was like my friends in high school. I thought they didn't really notice, but then one night when we were drunk I told them about my eating disorder and they said they knew and they were always talking about how worried they were. It really shocked me cause I had no idea that they knew! But yeah, just so long as you don't talk to ME about it haha."I no its stupid, but once i dont have to deal with their stressing out im happy to remain in denial. Im perfectly capable of driving myself insane without anyone else adding to the chayos with their fears and anxieties. xx Do you find this valuable? |
kab276 |
14. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 21 2009, 9:17 PM EDT
i refuse to tell anyone...i told 3 people last year and i could tell they didnt believe me or didnt take it seriously. this year i absolutly REFUSE to talk about it and if soneone says something i laugh it off. my friends are so self centered (its mean to say but true) that i doubt they would notice an eating disorder if i can to school wearing a t-shirt declaring I AM ANA. i mean i sit with them everyday at lunch not eating anything so its not that hard to figure out. as long as people mind their own buinsess its fine by me
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gemana |
15. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 22 2009, 1:32 PM EDT
I once told my friend I'd made myself sick, no idea why! I think it was before ana had really taken over, she said I was being stupid and I told her it was because I was trying the 2-4-6-8, she's never mentioned anything since. We even used to joke about things and say "i think i'm going to go home, eat loads then make myself sick", it's never been brought up and i worry that she thought i was attention seeking, that's why i'd never dream of telling her anything about any weight loss!
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16. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 22 2009, 4:31 PM EDT
Yeah I totally get what you mean! I've been ana for a while, I think my friends figured it out.. but its funny cause, they really don't give a ****.. I don't mind that, I'm really fine with that. but today when I was sitting with them while they were having lunch my friend said .. Once! I didn't eat anything except cornflakes for 15 hours ( 8 of those hours she spent sleeping.. and the next she was traveling) it was torture! I lost so much weight.. And I sat there looking at her like o.o I haven't eaten in years, I haven't lost that much! xD Sometimes you can tell its exaggerating.. she must have lost a pound or two.. but come on she told me the next day she was boney, :S if it was that easy then no one would be eating!
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17. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 22 2009, 8:33 PM EDT
Once! I didn't eat anything except cornflakes for 15 hours ( 8 of those hours she spent sleeping.. and the next she was traveling) it was torture! I lost so much weighti love when people say things like that im just like we all know your lying. and not eating anything but corn flakes barley evern counts since that have cals haha Do you find this valuable? |
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18. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 22 2009, 9:15 PM EDT
"Once! I didn't eat anything except cornflakes for 15 hours ( 8 of those hours she spent sleeping.. and the next she was traveling) it was torture! I lost so much weight:O 15 hours, only cornflakes?! ommg! ... thats the girls reaction .. I just smiled and let it pass.. I didnt want to make it obviose that I noticed how much of an exageration that is.. I mean, 15 hours! dude! :O super women.. Seriosly, my freinds eat alot, thats why they get shocked, they eat and eat and eat, its like I can see ther future, and I can see that if they dont change ther eating habits they will end up one of the really fat mothers u know? I tried warning them they dont listen, and when they eat, they get really tempting! its hard sometimes, thats why I never hang out with them when I'm feeling sad about my weight, I've been a loner for a while now, not meaning too.. just afraid to eat :S ... Far too much. Do you find this valuable? |
ess_revolution |
19. RE: ana 'sleep-over conversations'
Sep 23 2009, 1:33 AM EDT
I do my best to steer away from this topic with my friends I really only have 3 real friends all are bigger than me. One is losing weight naturally and really starting to look like a goddess!! I don't know how she does it she eats sooo much and is not mia!! My other two friends well one has really helped me because even tho she is big she loves to go walking with me and my third friends has been away out of state for a year and I suspect she is mia. But they all when brought to the topic agree skinny is pretty but they don't like ana skinny they think that ana is gross and that the girls who are only do it for attention [how wrong they would feel to find that I am and never talk about it with them] I don't know alot of ppl are simply afraid of what they don't know that is why I found this site so I can get support and speak freely.
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